To the person trying your hardest…

You aren’t alone.

Here is a list of what I’m trying my best to do, so you can know I kinda understand:

  1. Study for and pass my exam (I failed it the first time)
  2. Be an amazing mom
  3. Be an amazing partner
  4. Be a great employee
  5. Workout when I’m supposed to and be fit
  6. Eat decently
  7. Enjoy each day
  8. Run a business
  9. Be a blogger
  10. Get enough sleep
  11. Keep a non-dirty house
  12. Stay sane
  13. Practice self-care
  14. Be social, make new friends

The things I’m actually doing:

  1. Stressing
  2. Studying
  3. Feeling guilty
  4. Being tired
  5. Being hard on myself

So yeah, that’s what I have going on… I think this is more of a letter to myself than anyone else, but here she is!

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It’s tough because I want more than one thing… if I ONLY wanted to keep a clean house, that would be easy. If I ONLY wanted to be an amazing mom and forgot the other stuff, it would be easy. If I ONLY wanted to be fit, it would be easier…. There are 14 things that I listed off the top of my head that I want to successfully do on a regular basis… that’s a lot. Of course, it’s hard to balance it all!

Is it possible to do it all? I think so! The biggest hurdle for me right now is this exam coming up next month… it’s taking so much time to study and prepare, I feel like I’m failing at the other things… I know it must be done, and exactly one month from now, it’ll be over and I WILL PASS this time. I will be able to spend more time on my other 13 tasks.

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UGH!!

But back to you, the reader lol…

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You may feel alone and way over your head (same). Whether you are trying to be successful at one thing or a million different things,  KEEP ON GOING! Once this task is complete, you’ll be glad you did it…

person running through the mud
Photo by Massimo Sartirana on Unsplash

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Run through the mud and wash off later.

So what if you failed last time… you failed. YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE… Failures give up. Victors keep going til they win, until they finish.

Sacrifices have to be made. Be brave.

It hurts to have to block out the outside noise. Especially when that noise comes from those you love. They see you. They don’t understand the weight you carry on your shoulders, your own expectations for yourself. They don’t get it. They don’t understand why.

You hate yourself for procrastinating all this time, for not being as focused in the beginning, but its grind time now. It’s the fourth quarter, the money quarter,  and the winner is determined in the end, not the beginning. So get to it, bitch.

Boss bitches make moves, not excuses.

The first step is believing you can, dear. The hardest step is believing you will be successful. Your thoughts create a ripple affect that will lead you to your success. See yourself at the end. Know that you deserve this! Instead of worrying and thinking of 50 reasons why you can’t or wont, think about 50 reasons why you will and you should.

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***champagne and confetti***

Jalynn

To the soul that has the wildest dreams and aspirations (for a business or for fun)….

GO FOR IT… GO. FOR. IT.

You have these aspirations. Only YOU have these aspirations.  Even if other people are already doing the things you dream of, that’s fine. No one else can do it like YOU CAN.

Wouldn’t it be a shame if the world missed out on an opportunity to see your desires and talents become a reality? Wouldn’t it be a shame to go through your whole life and realize you never did  the one thing you always wanted to do?

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Reasons Not to Follow Your Dreams

Let me tell you, there are many “good” reasons why you shouldn’t follow your dreams. And by “good” reasons, I mean fear based reasons… and honestly,  those reasons should be flipped into good “means”.

  1. It costs money to follow your dreams!
    • Well sometimes that may be the case, but do you have a vice or luxury that you could give up for a while (alcohol, eating out, nail salon, buying shoes every week)? Save that money and invest it in yourself!!
    • Reevaluate your process. Do you really need $1000, or can you do it with $300 and a little bit extra grunt work?
    • Do some research. Some things don’t cost as much as you think it would.
  2. I don’t have time.
    • If you watch tv every  day, you have time. If you go shopping every weekend, you have time. If you scroll on social media every day, you have time. If you can wake up a few hours earlier or stay up a little later, you have time.
    • Most cases, the problem is TIME MANAGEMENT- not “I don’t have time”. Write out a daily schedule. Write down a daily or weekly to-do list (See one of my older posts on How to PROPERLLY complete your TO-DO List. Once you list everything out in front of you, you can prioritize or delegate tasks to get more things done.
  3. I don’t have support.
    • Have you asked for support? Have you shared a little bit of your desires with those around you? Have you asked for help in doing mundane tasks, so you can have time to focus on your goals? Sometimes your loved ones may surprise you and help you out more than you think.
    • Maybe you have people around you telling you not to do it… sometimes people project their own fears and experiences onto other people. Know the difference. If someone tells you not to do what you love, ask them why? Ask them to explain themselves and see where their reasoning comes from. Does it come from knowledge or fear? Also, if this negative person is always quick to be negative about everything, are they even worth listening to?
  4. I don’t know how to start!!
    • Look, the important thing is to just start! Google different methods of completing the goals you have. There are many free How-To resources out there. Use them. Just start somewhere. Take the first step. The rest will come.
    • Write a list of what you want to do. Once that list is done, write a list of how to complete those tasks…  sometimes, getting all of your thoughts down on paper can help you figure out where you need to start.
    • Maybe you know exactly where to start, but you’re afraid… do it anyway!! The first step will be the most challenging.

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There are many other reasons that people think they can’t reach their dreams. These are just the first few I thought of. But if you analyze, or pick apart, those reasons, they may most likely disappear!

Let Your Dreams Set Sail
Photo by Kelli Stirrett on Unsplash

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I love to see other people making their dreams a reality. Many of “The Greats” have done a lot more with a lot less than many of us have. It takes patience and  a lot of grit to accomplish a difficult goal. Its hard out here!!!

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When I Started my PM Reflection

Yall, when I started this blog site, I was terrified. I didn’t think anyone would read it. I thought people would make fun of what I wrote. I thought people would be mean. I thought I wouldn’t have enough decent things to talk about… and maybe all of those negative thoughts are true!

But check this out…

  1. Many people DON’T read my blog. I know most of my friends and family don’t read this thing!!
  2. Many people probably do make fun of what I write behind my back.
  3. Sometimes I don’t know what to write about… Sometimes I end up skipping a week because I forget to post, or my other priorities take over, or I just don’t know what to write about!

But you know what, I AM HERE. I am present. My website exists.

More people outwardly support me than don’t. I only have 20+ followers, but that’s 100% more that I had before I started. I have viewers from across the world (literally) from China, Germany, Australia, in addition to the United States… That’s a big win for me. You don’t always have to look to those closest to you for support. It can sometimes come from across the ocean (literally).

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Starting a Business

I was afraid to start our business. I thought we would waste time and money and no one would hire us… but we can’t let these thoughts cripple us.

We have to make sure to have content and products that people can’t refuse even if they wanted to!!!! We are at the beginning of building our empire. Once we launch (hopefully soon), it will be lit!!!

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Get to It!

I’m here saying these things to you because EYE want you to TAKE THE LEAP, my dear. I’m here with you. I’m here to talk! I mean that! Reply to this post, email me, DM me on Instagram, whatever! You deserve to have your desires fulfilled! Don’t hold yourself back.

I’m no where near a professional, but sometimes it helps to get out of your own head for a second and say things out loud and hear what other people have to say.

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Congratulations on taking a step toward your dreams! Keep me in the loop. I want to celebrate you! I’m serious. Comment, DM, email!!! Talk to me about it.

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***champagne and confetti***

Jalynn

A letter to the girl (or guy) who feels way over his/her head and can’t seem to stay on top of everything…

Don’t let it swallow you whole… You’re doing the best you can. The things that aren’t completed today can be done tomorrow, and that is fine. Don’t forget about those close to you who love you. Don’t push them away while you are trying to reach unrealistic deadlines.

Take time to breathe. When you aren’t doing what you’re “supposed to do” enjoy what you are actually doing… enjoy that tv show. Enjoy your kids. Enjoy that extra 30 minutes in traffic by listening to your favorite playlist or phoning a loved one.

The worst thing you can do is spend all of your time thinking about something else you should do or counting down time. It drains your energy.

Enjoy each moment because once it passes, it’s gone forever… You will never be this young again. Your kids will never be this tiny and needy again. This time with your loved ones may never happen again.

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A few things that are more important than your errands, your money, or your projects:

  1. Your health (mental and physical)
  2. Time with your loved ones
  3. REST
  4. Having a solid plan (not just trying to keep busy)
  5. Just plain FUN

When you feel consumed by it all, take 10 minutes to reflect. Ask yourself:

  1. What is most important to me right now?
  2. What can wait until tomorrow?
  3. What needs to be done right now?
  4. How can I complete these goals effectively?
  5. When is the best time to work on each task without interruption?
  6. What time of day can I get the most done?

To me, the last two questions are the most important. I have to do most of my work without interruption so I can maximize my time and energy. The early mornings are the best time for me. Whatever I can’t fit in the 2-3 hours before everyone wakes up will have to wait until tomorrow (or until nap time lol).

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Stop focusing so much on what you aren’t doing and focus on what you can do and when you can do it. Compartmentalize and properly time out everything. Love each minute. Love what you’re doing. Its your life to live.  You are doing the work… don’t let it work you. Remember the reasons why you started. The reasons you started are sometimes the same things that get in your way, but that makes it so much more special.

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***champagne and confetti***

Jalynn

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PS: check out my older post about How to Properly Complete Your TO-DO List (its not just for moms)!!

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Featured Photo by Ian on Unsplash

To the person who always puts others’ needs and feelings first…

You can’t keep pouring from an empty cup. Take time for yourself…

Not everyone has the ability to give like you do- and its not necessarily their fault. We always seem like we have it all together… They may not realize that you need time, that you need love, that you need effort too.

People like us have to create our own safe space. We have to be our own comfort. We have to plan our own good time. If we can plan for others and make their day great, why not plan a great day for ourselves??

Self-care man, do it.

What is self care??

Screenshot of Dictionary.com definition of self-care.

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Now, self care looks different for different people.

I know its hard take time away from our responsibilities to do this. Mom guilt is real. How dare I go to work all day, come home work out, and then take even more extra time away from my family!!!???

But honestly, your family won’t remember those few extra minutes you are away… You know what they will remember? Your bad attitude, your aggression, your tiredness all the time. A happy mommy, or whatever your role is, is 10000x better than an exhausted and stressed mommy.

Think of self care as giving yourself the ability to put your best foot forward… So give it a try! In the words of Tia Mowry, “Self care isn’t selfish.”

When I take time for myself, even if its just a few hours, I feel refreshed and ready to take on anything!

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Oh, and after you practice this self care, start putting your own needs and feelings first for a change. You may seem like the bad guy for a bit, but be the hero for your own story and not everyone else‘s.

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***champagne and confetti***
Jalynn

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