To the person trying your hardest…

You aren’t alone.

Here is a list of what I’m trying my best to do, so you can know I kinda understand:

  1. Study for and pass my exam (I failed it the first time)
  2. Be an amazing mom
  3. Be an amazing partner
  4. Be a great employee
  5. Workout when I’m supposed to and be fit
  6. Eat decently
  7. Enjoy each day
  8. Run a business
  9. Be a blogger
  10. Get enough sleep
  11. Keep a non-dirty house
  12. Stay sane
  13. Practice self-care
  14. Be social, make new friends

The things I’m actually doing:

  1. Stressing
  2. Studying
  3. Feeling guilty
  4. Being tired
  5. Being hard on myself

So yeah, that’s what I have going on… I think this is more of a letter to myself than anyone else, but here she is!

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It’s tough because I want more than one thing… if I ONLY wanted to keep a clean house, that would be easy. If I ONLY wanted to be an amazing mom and forgot the other stuff, it would be easy. If I ONLY wanted to be fit, it would be easier…. There are 14 things that I listed off the top of my head that I want to successfully do on a regular basis… that’s a lot. Of course, it’s hard to balance it all!

Is it possible to do it all? I think so! The biggest hurdle for me right now is this exam coming up next month… it’s taking so much time to study and prepare, I feel like I’m failing at the other things… I know it must be done, and exactly one month from now, it’ll be over and I WILL PASS this time. I will be able to spend more time on my other 13 tasks.

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UGH!!

But back to you, the reader lol…

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You may feel alone and way over your head (same). Whether you are trying to be successful at one thing or a million different things,  KEEP ON GOING! Once this task is complete, you’ll be glad you did it…

person running through the mud
Photo by Massimo Sartirana on Unsplash

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Run through the mud and wash off later.

So what if you failed last time… you failed. YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE… Failures give up. Victors keep going til they win, until they finish.

Sacrifices have to be made. Be brave.

It hurts to have to block out the outside noise. Especially when that noise comes from those you love. They see you. They don’t understand the weight you carry on your shoulders, your own expectations for yourself. They don’t get it. They don’t understand why.

You hate yourself for procrastinating all this time, for not being as focused in the beginning, but its grind time now. It’s the fourth quarter, the money quarter,  and the winner is determined in the end, not the beginning. So get to it, bitch.

Boss bitches make moves, not excuses.

The first step is believing you can, dear. The hardest step is believing you will be successful. Your thoughts create a ripple affect that will lead you to your success. See yourself at the end. Know that you deserve this! Instead of worrying and thinking of 50 reasons why you can’t or wont, think about 50 reasons why you will and you should.

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***champagne and confetti***

Jalynn

To the soul that has the wildest dreams and aspirations (for a business or for fun)….

GO FOR IT… GO. FOR. IT.

You have these aspirations. Only YOU have these aspirations.  Even if other people are already doing the things you dream of, that’s fine. No one else can do it like YOU CAN.

Wouldn’t it be a shame if the world missed out on an opportunity to see your desires and talents become a reality? Wouldn’t it be a shame to go through your whole life and realize you never did  the one thing you always wanted to do?

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Reasons Not to Follow Your Dreams

Let me tell you, there are many “good” reasons why you shouldn’t follow your dreams. And by “good” reasons, I mean fear based reasons… and honestly,  those reasons should be flipped into good “means”.

  1. It costs money to follow your dreams!
    • Well sometimes that may be the case, but do you have a vice or luxury that you could give up for a while (alcohol, eating out, nail salon, buying shoes every week)? Save that money and invest it in yourself!!
    • Reevaluate your process. Do you really need $1000, or can you do it with $300 and a little bit extra grunt work?
    • Do some research. Some things don’t cost as much as you think it would.
  2. I don’t have time.
    • If you watch tv every  day, you have time. If you go shopping every weekend, you have time. If you scroll on social media every day, you have time. If you can wake up a few hours earlier or stay up a little later, you have time.
    • Most cases, the problem is TIME MANAGEMENT- not “I don’t have time”. Write out a daily schedule. Write down a daily or weekly to-do list (See one of my older posts on How to PROPERLLY complete your TO-DO List. Once you list everything out in front of you, you can prioritize or delegate tasks to get more things done.
  3. I don’t have support.
    • Have you asked for support? Have you shared a little bit of your desires with those around you? Have you asked for help in doing mundane tasks, so you can have time to focus on your goals? Sometimes your loved ones may surprise you and help you out more than you think.
    • Maybe you have people around you telling you not to do it… sometimes people project their own fears and experiences onto other people. Know the difference. If someone tells you not to do what you love, ask them why? Ask them to explain themselves and see where their reasoning comes from. Does it come from knowledge or fear? Also, if this negative person is always quick to be negative about everything, are they even worth listening to?
  4. I don’t know how to start!!
    • Look, the important thing is to just start! Google different methods of completing the goals you have. There are many free How-To resources out there. Use them. Just start somewhere. Take the first step. The rest will come.
    • Write a list of what you want to do. Once that list is done, write a list of how to complete those tasks…  sometimes, getting all of your thoughts down on paper can help you figure out where you need to start.
    • Maybe you know exactly where to start, but you’re afraid… do it anyway!! The first step will be the most challenging.

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There are many other reasons that people think they can’t reach their dreams. These are just the first few I thought of. But if you analyze, or pick apart, those reasons, they may most likely disappear!

Let Your Dreams Set Sail
Photo by Kelli Stirrett on Unsplash

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I love to see other people making their dreams a reality. Many of “The Greats” have done a lot more with a lot less than many of us have. It takes patience and  a lot of grit to accomplish a difficult goal. Its hard out here!!!

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When I Started my PM Reflection

Yall, when I started this blog site, I was terrified. I didn’t think anyone would read it. I thought people would make fun of what I wrote. I thought people would be mean. I thought I wouldn’t have enough decent things to talk about… and maybe all of those negative thoughts are true!

But check this out…

  1. Many people DON’T read my blog. I know most of my friends and family don’t read this thing!!
  2. Many people probably do make fun of what I write behind my back.
  3. Sometimes I don’t know what to write about… Sometimes I end up skipping a week because I forget to post, or my other priorities take over, or I just don’t know what to write about!

But you know what, I AM HERE. I am present. My website exists.

More people outwardly support me than don’t. I only have 20+ followers, but that’s 100% more that I had before I started. I have viewers from across the world (literally) from China, Germany, Australia, in addition to the United States… That’s a big win for me. You don’t always have to look to those closest to you for support. It can sometimes come from across the ocean (literally).

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Starting a Business

I was afraid to start our business. I thought we would waste time and money and no one would hire us… but we can’t let these thoughts cripple us.

We have to make sure to have content and products that people can’t refuse even if they wanted to!!!! We are at the beginning of building our empire. Once we launch (hopefully soon), it will be lit!!!

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Get to It!

I’m here saying these things to you because EYE want you to TAKE THE LEAP, my dear. I’m here with you. I’m here to talk! I mean that! Reply to this post, email me, DM me on Instagram, whatever! You deserve to have your desires fulfilled! Don’t hold yourself back.

I’m no where near a professional, but sometimes it helps to get out of your own head for a second and say things out loud and hear what other people have to say.

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Congratulations on taking a step toward your dreams! Keep me in the loop. I want to celebrate you! I’m serious. Comment, DM, email!!! Talk to me about it.

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***champagne and confetti***

Jalynn

One Year, One BIG Lesson

My daughter turns 1 this week and I can’t believe it. I look back at her pictures from when she was first born and throughout the months and I can’t help but think, “WOW, where did my little baby go?”

I’ve been thinking of how I felt this time last year. I was completely impatient and waiting for this girl to be here!! She was kicking up a storm and I was looking up all kinds of old wives tales about how to induce labor (none of them worked by the way… she still came 5 days after her due date). But once she was here, it didn’t matter. I was glad that it was over, but I was more glad that my birth plan was a success and that she was healthy and in my arms!

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Even at almost 1 year old, she still has many of her little quirks that she had since birth. Her “milk drunk” look, her little crooked smile, the light in her eyes, the peaceful face when she sleeps, the way she stretches when she’s waking up, her curious nature….

They tell you how rewarding it is to raise a little one, but the only way to really understand it is to experience it yourself.

****please try not to experience it til you are ready***

When I think about what I could be doing if I didn’t have her, nothing comes to mind. I’m so grateful that she came into our lives. There have been many, many hard times that I’m glad are over. But looking back, that doesn’t matter. The good really does outweigh the bad. We are all healthy. We are all together. We are blessed. We are cared for and looked after. We are grateful!

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I joke that a baby’s birthday should be to celebrate the mother. WHERES MY GIFT!!! – but I know that’s what Mother’s Day is for lol. I’ve learned so many lessons and I think that is my gift (besides the actual baby). So many hard lessons and I do not wish anything went differently. Well- I wish my Grandaddy was still here in good health. But that’s another story!… I also wish I didn’t have to kinda start from scratch with my fitness goals, but that’s okay. I’m learning to enjoy the process….

Back to the lessons. So many hard lessons.

Here is the main lesson I learned this year:

People project their fears, insecurities, and failures onto you. I’ve had a natural birth, bought a house, took a major exam for my career, breastfed and plan to continue breastfeeding, make my own baby food, workout hard and eat relatively clean, I’m a working mom with my own hobbies, and upcoming business…. EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THOSE THINGS I did WHILE pregnant or WITH an infant. Someone or multiple someones have basically told me that I am crazy for wanting to do any/ all of these things or I wouldn’t be successful at doing it or they couldn’t do it or they listed some reasons why I am crazy for thinking that I can…

I am so glad I have the bit of self-efficacy that I do, because I would be so depressed and stuck if I’d listened to any of the negativity. I work for what I want and I always get it, or get better. That’s a fact.

  1. Yes, I had a natural birth (non-medicated). I mentally and physically prepared for it, I also had a great support person (fiancé), so I was successful. The natural birth was difficult, but I will do it again if I have another child.
  2. Yes, I bought a house. The process was challenging but thanks to my fiancé, my amazing realtor, and my support system, everything went pretty much smoothly.
  3. Yes, I took the PE exam. I failed it. But when I take it again this year, I know my weaknesses and what to expect and work on.
  4. Yes, I am breastfeeding my daughter and I will probably continue for a while. Breastfeeding was challenging at the beginning but it has gotten easier. I am doing what is best for my daughter, despite what society- and even my family- tells me.
  5. Yes, I  make my own baby food. I know they sell it already made, but I’ve enjoyed making her food. She has her whole life to eat processed food.
  6.  Yes, I work out hard and eat relatively clean. It is hard to work out after working  and mom-ing all day, but I know it’s worth it and I enjoy it. Working out keeps me from getting crazy.
  7. Yes, I’m a working mom with my own hobbies and goals. It does take time away from my family, but a happy mommy = a happy family. I want my daughter to see what I am capable of so she can know that she is capable of so much more.

Furthermore, why does it matter to anyone what I am doing or how much energy I’ll have to do what I want to do. Just because YOU can’t do it, doesn’t mean that I can’t. What ever happened to encouraging each other? But I digress.

New moms, young women, humans of this earth, whoever is reading this blog: If someone is not supporting you and telling you that you won’t be successful at something, figure out why they are saying these things. Most likely the reason has to do with them and not you. You are capable. You are competent. You are competitive. You are it.

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Happy Birthday week to my Mommy!!!

I love you so much and I’m so grateful I get to call you mine! You motivate me and push me to be my best and you don’t even know it yet. I hope I’m making you proud because I am a reflection of you! You deserve the world and don’t you let anyone tell you differently.

Love, Mommy!!

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***champagne and confetti***
Jalynn