To the womxn who wants to change their appearance…

DO THE DAMN THING!!! (lol)

But forreal thooooo. Do it! Cut your hair, shave your head, get those highlights, dye your hair red, start dressing differently!!

What are you afraid of?

People are going to make fun of you whether you change or not. People are going to say mean things no matter how you dress. What a person criticizes about others is often something they criticize about themselves.

In the words of Jessie J, Masterpiece, “Those who mind don’t matter, those who matter don’t mind!”

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On the topic of changing appearances, I want to tell yall something… I’m planning on going natural!!! You heard it second! I’m giving the “creamy crack” up. I will go without a relaxer until January. If I make it that long, I will decide to cut it or continue growing it out and transitioning. The last time I got a relaxer was the first week of September. Its only been 2 months, but I have been thinking about doing this change for a while.

About 2 years ago, I was super against myself going natural. I loved the natural look on others, I would often encourage others to do it; but I also loved my long, straight hair. I love the feeling of running a brush from roots to ends!

But lately, the past year or so, I’ve been getting tired of the straight hair look. I find myself regularly curling it and trying to make it bigger. So finally, I decided that its time to give myself a new look! I’ve had a short pixie cut, I’ve had bobs, inverted bobs, choppy layers, and plain straight hair. The only look I haven’t had is my natural curls.

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I didn’t seriously consider going natural until I had my daughter. She has super curly, beautiful hair! I love her curls so much; it makes me want some too!!!!!

toddler girl with curly hair looking at her shoes
This picture honestly doesn’t do her justice, but you get the idea.

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Obviously, I know that we will not have the same type of hair, but I want to love my own natural curls as much as I love her natural curls. I got my first relaxer when I was about 12 years old, so I remember what my hair was like, however, I’m sure the texture changed over the past 14 years lol.

And honesty, if I hate it, I could just get a relaxer again.

My point is, nothing has to be permanent. Hair will always grow back. You could always change your clothes, curl or straighten your hair, etc.… certain things aren’t as big of a risk as they seem. Sometimes, we are more afraid of ourselves than others when it comes to a change in appearance.

Also, you never know who you could inspire! Think of the young person who is afraid to make the same change you are afraid to make… seeing you could inspire them. We all have someone that inspires us to do something different. Take the risk for yourself and those that come after you.

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***champagne and confetti***

Jalynn

20+ Followers Yawl

Yawl!! I have over 20 followers on my blog!!!!

I know that more people read it, but aren’t subscribed and that’s okay. But TWENTY FOLLOWERS!!!! This is honestly a big deal for me.

For a while I didn’t think anyone would read, let alone subscribe! I didn’t even expect to have 5 followers but look at me go!!

Why did I start this blog if I didn’t think I’d be successful?

Well I started this blog to have a creative outlet for myself. I hoped to get a big enough following so I could eventually make money off of it… (eventually). But now, 4 months into this blog life, I don’t care about the money.

Of course of someone were to offer it, I’d take it lol. But this blog has been real therapy for me. I have created a virtual space for myself. My hard thoughts could live outside of my head. I don’t need to have find anyone on hand to talk to, I talk to you! I have you!!!! My readers are the friends I may not know about. (that sounds weird lol but I hope you know what I mean)

Could I have just used Facebook and Instagram? Yes. But, I feel that this website is a safer space than social media. I can type it out without having to  worry about a post being too long. There are no rules or judgment here.

Typing or writing does wonders for my mind. I leave it all on the table sometimes.

There are several posts that I have written up that I will probably never post. This gives me reason to sit down and have time to myself and evaluate where my head is. It helps me to reflect and assess my feelings and get them out.

I think everyone should have some sort of creative outlet. Music, blog, songwriting, exercising, screaming alone in your car… no one should have to just live in their own head. Sometimes its hard to talk to another person and feel comfortable or vulnerable enough to express yourself.

But really… Find your outlet. It does wonders for the brain.

I am a very goal oriented person. I like completing things. The feeling of finishing a task, no matter how small, makes me feel unstoppable. Writing a post each week (or every other week) gives me something productive to check off my list.

Was I afraid of posting my thoughts on the internet? Was I afraid to start a business? Was I afreaid of half of the things I’ve done? Yes.

But I’m glad I put myself out there because I know so many people who keep themselves inside of a box because they’re afraid or they seek approval from those who will never be happy with anything or anyone!

LIVE FOR YOURSELF. MAKE YOURSELF BETTER. DO IT FOR YOU AND THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE.

I’m yelling at you, LIVE THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE. At the end of it all, you have to be happy with yourself and decide if you lived up to your potential.

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I’m going to make some changes to my website layout and style within the next few months. Stay tuned!!

But for real, I love this blog. I love you for reading. Thank you.

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***champagne and confetti***

Jalynn